Divorce isn’t a subject most people like to talk about. Even as a family law office, Essig Law takes no joy in the dissolution of a marriage. However, it’s our job to ensure it’s as quick and painless as possible (ideally for both sides of the separation). To that end, there are things you can do, knowingly or unknowingly, that can hinder your divorce process and make arguing your side of a separation more challenging. To facilitate a straightforward marriage dissolution, here are five actions you should avoid while papers are being finalized.
Don’t Get Frustrated
It’s easy for emotions to flare up during a divorce, especially if you and your spouse can’t seem to agree to any of the terms of your separation. However, now’s not the time to get flustered or mad. Staying civil during divorce proceedings ensures you have the upper hand during times of negotiation. Additionally, having an attorney represent your side of the separation can introduce a third party who can calmly negotiate on your behalf if tempers begin to run high.
Don’t Be Dishonest
Many divorce cases have gone wrong due to the dishonesty of one or both parties. It’s easy to think you can get away with lying about the value of certain assets or what is and isn’t yours once property division begins. However, if evidence is shown to the contrary of what you are claiming during a contested divorce case, you can be held in contempt of court. And rather than give a judge an excuse to rule in favor of the other party, be honest and transparent throughout divorce proceedings.
Don’t Be Vindictive
We understand how a relationship can break down into bickering and name-calling. After all, Essig Law Office has assisted with enough divorce cases to see every side of a separation. However, no matter how troublesome or toxic your current relationship is with your spouse, do not engage in vindictive or hostile behavior towards them. Anything you say, text, post online, etc., disparaging your soon-to-be-ex can be brought up before a judge. Especially if you have children, one bad text exchange can be the difference between winning or losing a child custody case.
Don’t Forget About Your Children
Speaking of child custody cases, now’s as good as time as any to remind you to keep your children in mind throughout divorce proceedings. We understand this goes without saying for most, but it’s easy to get caught up with the stress and confusion of a legal separation without considering what’s best for your kids. Thankfully, Essig Law Office will also look out for your children’s best interests. Our child custody or visitation negotiations will keep the safety and wellbeing of kids in mind.
Don’t Go Straight to Court
While it can sometimes seem impossible to negotiate divorce arrangements with your spouse, stick with it! Although contested divorce cases often end up in court, Essig Law will do everything in its power to prevent that potential outcome. Court resolutions for divorce should typically be your last option, as a court case can take considerable time and money. For the sake of you and your spouse, negotiating out of court will save you the stress and hassle a court case brings.
Don’t Forgo Representation
If a divorce is amicable, and you and your spouse can agree to its terms with little fuss, there might be little need for a lawyer. However, we’re not discussing “uncontested” divorce cases in today’s article. In all likelihood, if your divorce is contested, you’ll need representation for your side of the separation. Our team of attorneys will work directly with you and engage with your spouse on your behalf. And if your spouse gets representation, it becomes imperative to find an attorney of your own to ensure fairness throughout the proceedings.
Avoid Big Law Firms
While there are plenty of options out there when considering a family lawyer for your case, a local law office might be more up to your speed. With some bigger law firms, your case can get neglected in the influx of additional clients. Conversely, with Essig Law Office, you can expect one-on-one consultations and direct communication at a moment’s notice. We’re not only invested in your case but we’re invested in you. Other big law firms might not be able to give you the same personal treatment as Essig Law Office can.
There’s plenty more to consider when managing a contested divorce. And now that you know what NOT to do for your separation, allow Essig Law Office to show you the best way for a complete and successful marriage dissolution. To learn more about our family law services or schedule a free consultation, contact us today at 309-444-8041. Also, we are located at 135 Washington Square, Washington, IL 61571.